This is when things hurt most.
My morning and my nights.
I wonder where you are. I wonder what you’re doing. I wonder if you’ve seen a funny vid being shared on social media. I wonder how your day went.
I wonder what you think of. I wonder if you ever think of me. I wonder if I’m easy to forget.
I’m not supposed to think of any of these things but I do. It’s not that easy for me to let someone I loved go.
I know I should be angry and I am. Parts of me hate the way everything happened. Most of me knows things needed to change. Most of me knows that this needed to happen.
I look to the future now and I wonder if there’s space for you in it. I thought we were a team. I thought we were working towards the same thing. I thought we both wanted to know how this chapter would end.
You let it go and I thought it was premature of you to do. I told you to stop being a scaredy cat. I told you I thought you were better.
The truth is, you were. You did the thing I couldn’t do.
I still miss you very much and believe with much of my heart that you and I had something that very few people get to have. I still think we do, but I also think we need time and distance for that to work. And that is a whole other story that I can’t entertain. It will hurt me. I know it will.
I saw this the other day. It broke my heart but I understand 100% how this feels because I felt this when I canceled my flight.
Some things I’ve learned/been told that have helped:
- What gives them the right to destroy my life? This is from my friend Kriti and Ines. It’s true. I’m feeling sooooo down again today. Thankfully my friend sent me this and it’s exactly what I needed to hear. He doesn’t get the right to destroy me. He doesn’t deserve my tears. He doesn’t deserve my thoughts. He didn’t want me, therefore, I no longer see him that way (at least that’s what I keep telling myself).
- When your heart is broken is when you can let the light in. This is 100% true. This is helping me to fill those cracks with love, light, and rose gold. I think of that Japanese word about a broken bowl and how beautiful and unique things are after they’ve been broken.
- You’ve been his cheerleader for ages, it’s about time you start cheering for yourself. When you start cheering for yourself, the world starts cheering too. I’m a naturally cheery person (for the most part) and I have the gift of bringing joy to others. It’s time I do it for myself.
- Hope. Life goes on and having hope for better things will keep me from becoming a bitter person who avoids love at all costs. I’ve come so far and I think I’m only getting closer to the right person. I just need to remember to have hope and love for myself.